I know this is going to be a bit harsh, but I have to say it. I've noticed a rather high percentage of the small number of bloggers on this very new datingish site seem to be girls whining about being single. I have to say, this irritates me and I hope it is not a trend that continues in the future of Datingish. The most disturbing part to me is that a lot of the girls seem to be 20-25 (my age), which is too young to be complaining about being single. Yeah being single can sometimes be lonely. But just because you don't have a boyfriend right now, does not mean you will be alone for the rest of your life. Also, a lot of the girls seem to have this "when will my knight in shining armor come sweep me off my feet?" attitude and they're just sitting around waiting for that to happen. Well, I'm here to tell you to CHEER UP AND GET OFF YOUR LAZY BUTTS!
Being single when you're in your early 20s is a
good thing ladies. You are young, you are trying to figure out your life, you are getting to know you. Why bring someone else into the picture to muddle that up? You can focus on your career and get a head start. You can do
whatever you want and you have no one to answer to but yourself. You only need to worry about yourself. And trust me, when you're older, you'll look back and wish for those times again while your shuffling the children around to their various extracurricular activities and you no longer have time for yourself. Not to say that having children is a bad thing. But once you get married and have kids, you will never have times like this (singledom in your early 20s) again. And there will be times you will miss it. So enjoy it while you still can.
Another thing - if you want love so badly, make it happen. These are modern times ladies. You can't just sit around waiting for Prince Charming to come sweep you off your feet and love you for you. Someone loving you for you means they have to get to know you, which takes time. So first off, be patient. And if you want to meet a guy, you have to put yourself in situations where you can meet guys. You have to go out. You have to talk to men. Still finding it hard to get a date? Join an online dating site. Find a dating service. Ask your friends to hook you up. DO SOMETHING to make it happen. Even if you don't find prince charming right away, at the very least you'll get more dating experience and be more comfortable with guys and with the process. I know we all read the fairytales where the women are sitting and waiting in their tower or in their coma or in their family servitude and the prince magically comes and rescues them, but life doesn't work that way. If you want to date, you have to be proactive. Women are independent now. We don't rely on guys to do everything anymore, remember? Sitting on Xanga/Datingish complaining isn't going to get you a boyfriend. So knock it off, go out and do something about it! Or else you have no one to blame but yourself.
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**standing ovation**
I totally and completely agree with you on this one! So huge kudos to you for putting it into words in a way that's encouraging!
However, I do think though the harder you LOOK to "fall in love" and try to force it, it won't happen...at least not in the way you dream about. It's the times you're enjoying being YOU and enjoying your single life and not looking that that special someone finds you the most attractive and the sparks begin to fly.
I don't post for anyone to say yay you whatever I post how I feel. If you don't like it then you don't have to read my post. As for my postings there will definitely be days when i post about how I'm sick of being single. If you don't like it don't read it. Its my blog so read it or not. It says you can vent here and thats what I do. Will there be posts that talk about how confused or annoyed with being single I am? Yes!! But its my blog, read it or not. You get the choice to read it or not read it. Thats my two cents.
I so agree. I hate the fact that so many girls just sit around waiting for the "right" guy to come along. they don't do anything to find him and, eventually, they get lonely and decide to settle with a less-than-right-guy that conveniently happens to like her. and when the right guy does come along, she's taken and the guy gets disappointed because he realizes that many girls have settled instead of pro-actively searching for him the way he's searching for her.
@poetdiva - Please don't take this as an attack. Occasional talking about being single sucking (which it can) is fine, but there are a few people on here who seem to write about only that and they write in a way that shows me they're not doing anything to change it. They just expect some guy to come along and sweep them off their feet. That's what bothers me is people who complain yet do nothing to fix their situation. And yes, it is your blog, but if you want other people to read it and comment and thus form a little online community (which is kind of the point of blogging for most people but maybe it's not for you and that's fine) then complaining all the time won't get you readers. I'm not saying you do. I'm just saying. General rule of blogging: people don't want to read angry rants all the time.
Well I appreciate your comments. To be honest I don't necessarily care if I have people who read my blog or not. If you do thats great, if you don't thats great too. My posts are what I feel. There will be days when i post about being single and hating it, there will be days when I post about loving it. It will depend on my mood. As I said, if people read it and comment great if not thats great too.
tough love, but everything you say is true. Â one thing i'll say though is that i think most guys still do tend to need to "chase" so while being proactive can help things along, girls should still leave room for boys to be men or prepared to wear the pants in whatever happens after.
@rosiegiggles@xanga - That's very true. That's why most of my suggestions were such that simply puts you in the position to meet men and they can start chasing from there.
I agree with you...on some days. Then there are times where I get really lonely and wish I had someone. And its not helped by the fact that all my friends are in relationships...
Very motivational entry. I think this can be applied to both sexes on Datingish/Xanga