I met him through my coworkers (he worked on a different project with them) and I always thought he was cute and seemed very nice. But I had a boyfriend so I didn't think much of it.
When The Army Guy (my most recent ex) broke up with me, I wanted to surround myself with friends, so I called just about everyone I knew to fill my weekend with plans. Though we hadn't hung out without my coworkers before, he came to a free concert with me at Prospect Park and a few of my other friends. We actually had a conversation about soulmates in the first hour of us hanging out. And now I'm kind of convinced that he is mine.
That night, after the concert we went out for drinks and we ended up drunkenly making out and staying out until something like 4:30am. He's such a good kisser, and that is really important to me because I really like kissing. We talked about film stuff a lot and he offered to put me into contact with a bunch of people he thought might be interested in a documentary I want to make. He's so generous. Then he walked my drunk, obnoxious ass home, even though it was the opposite direction from where we needed to go. He's so sweet and such a gentleman. I offered to let him crash at my place since it was so late, but he wouldn't come up because he isn't in to random hook ups (the first guy in New York I've met who has ever said that) and he didn't want to be tempted.
He's been really busy because (here's the catch - there's always a catch) he is from India and his US visa ran out, so he has to leave the country. So he's been busy trying to sell off his furniture, put things in storage, etc. He leaves tomorrow. *sigh* Apparently my timing seems to really suck when it comes to guys. He says he plans to come back if he can get a visa, but that's at least a year away, if not more. The times we have hung out since were more platonic, even though it seemed like he liked me. This is how sweet he is - we went to a movie and he knows how I feel about smoking (the one thing I don't like about him is that he smokes. A lot.) and he left his cigarettes at home.
Last night was his going away party and I told him that I really liked him because I wasn't sure if he really liked me (even though he did things that made it seem like it, he's such a sweetheart that it can be hard to tell). He said he did and we ended up hanging out for the rest of the night, dancing, and more making out. I feel kind of bad because I totally ditched some friends who I was going to meet at a second party. But I was giddy when he said he does like me and he asked me to stay. He's leaving indefinitely. How could I refuse? I couldn't stop grinning for the rest of the night. He did crash at my place this time. We made out until it started getting light out and when we woke up in the morning, he was so sweet - kissing me and being all cuddly. It was perfect. I was late for work because I didn't want to stop kissing him. Hopefully we're going to hang out tonight - his last night in New York. I don't think we'll get to spend the night together again though.
You know how I know I really like him? Every time I think about him I grin. And he's kind of short (maybe 2 inches taller than me) but it doesn't bother me. If I didn't like him a lot, that would bother me. I would nitpick. Plus I'm breaking my "stay away from (romantically) other people who work in film" rule. He's really such a genuinely great guy and I'm really disappointed that I probably won't get to be the person to take him off the market. I can't stand the thought that there's this amazing guy out there that I like and who likes me but I don't get to be with him. He's just out of reach. But I guess if he's my soulmate we'll somehow end up together anyway? Here's to hoping.
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That sounds really amazing and sweet. But I think if you're really meant to be, it'll happen. I wouldn't stress too much. <3
Wow. It's a very nice post. I'm glad to see there are real connections happening out there. (Well, here in NY too!) So.. Congrats and... sorry.
(Talk about being teased by fate.) But I can't believe it is that cruel so... 
People will try to tell you that fate will bring you to your true love, but I think that fate will take you to where you need to be and you have to go the rest of the way. So right now, I think fate took you where you needed to be and you went for it. It'll always be like that, you never need to know more then what you know now about love and that's that all you have to do is love in order to be loved back. Don't worry, if its meant to be, fate will bring back to each other. =)Â
Awww... that's sweet. I think there's a reason why he's come into your life, and I think if you're meant to be together, it will happen.
I met a guy like that not long ago. What's different was I didn't think he liked me that way and I didn't ask, even although I was (and still am) convinced we're meant to be together. Now he's left for Australia and I'll probably never see him again. I'm just going to wait and see how the future plans out. Good luck to you!
so tragic! good for you that you don't sound too sad.
I met one like this as well, even though i didnt originally believe he was a "nice guy." I had just come to the conclusion nice guys who are attractive and charming just didnt exist. I'd like to think he proved me wrong.
He's in the navy, and we've been through so much together. Each time something happens, and we never really know if he's coming back or what turn his life will take next, we just dont give up on each other. and so far fate has cut us a little slack.
I left it to "if its meant to be, it will be", so mostly on faith. And now we're in so deep I dont see this ending. He's currently away, but returns home in a few months.
Good things come to those who wait =] best of luck
I don't know what to say. Can you possibly help him find a job in the US to help him come back?