Ok, so I have a little bit of a complaint/question about men - what is with the phone games?
For some reason, almost every guy I have ever met follows the three day rule exactly. Pretty much without fail, I can expect to hear from a guy exactly three days after I've given them my number. On the one hand, this is nice because I can usually assume that if I don't hear from them after three days, they aren't going to call and I can forget about them. But on the other hand, why three days?! Not that I need you to call me the next day but I'm not going to think you're desperate if you do. And why play games and follow these silly made up rules? Call me when you feel like calling me and when you have the time to do so. Believe it or not, even if I really like you, I'm not sitting by my phone waiting for it (especially with cell phones all popular now and whatnot) and I'm not going to read a lot into
when you call because I just don't care and I don't play those kinds of games. The only time I read anything into it is when you call me exactly three days later. Because then I can't help but notice that you're playing it safe and following the rules and honestly that's a few points against you.
The other thing that really bothers me is guys who text you first. I never use this word but I have to say it - that's just a pussy move. Grow some balls, pick up the phone and call me. Texting is lame. You text people when you don't have time or the ability to call them and you want to say something short and concise. You don't text them to ask them out. That's just cowardly. If I've just met you and given you my number, I want you to call me. Not text me. I want to hear your voice and have a conversation so I can get to know you better since we've only just met and all. I can't get to know you better in 160 characters or less and I'm not all gung ho about going out with some guy I haven't even spoken to since I met him.
I'm sure there are other stupid "rules" I'm forgetting when it comes to calling a girl whose number you've gotten. Anyone care to add to the list?
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sounds like your really pissed. I can't say why most guys do this, but i've done 2 days before. I've also called a girl the next day. it all depends on the way the person says to call me, i think. If they leave it open , like just call me whenever, then usually more than 3 days, but if they say call me soon, i guess it means in the next couple of days. thats just my opinion
Guys don't generally get my number unless I really like them sooo, if you get my number, I better be getting a call soon. That's it for me, pretty simple, no 3 day rule. If you don't call after that I just assume you're not interested and most likely you aren't. It should be that you want to hear the sound of my  voice again, just like if I really liked you and got your number, I would call you. =)
oh that's interesting. Some folks would say to text or email rather than call first...then if they don't respond you call, and they are typically more likely to pick up the phone then. Also, less chance to screw up with what you're saying on the phone. Also you can text any time of day...phone...at least for those who work full time jobs..you can really only call at night.
@cpeteryu@xanga - I would never say to text or especially not email first. If I want to get to know someone, I can't do that very well through those mediums and I want to hear their voice. Plus so what if they can only call in the evening? Hopefully we're both employed and therefore the evening works best for both of us anyway. When I'm at work sometimes I don't even have time to check texts, so it wouldn't matter anyway.