Alright folks, it's time to play another round of "Does he like me?"
If only boys weren't so confusing and I didn't have to ask strangers on the internet if a guy likes me... Ha!
Ok, so I went on a second date with
The 35-year Old. We hit up a couple of very romantic secret bars (think dark, candlelit tables and quiet so you can actually talk) and we got caught in the rain together and were forced to stand very close under my rather small pink umbrella (which he held the whole time, being the gentleman that he is).
But he didn't make a move. Not one. I think maybe he touched my leg once or twice but that might've been an accident for how briefly it happened. And I don't think he even accidentally brushed my shoulder while we were crammed under the umbrella. The closest thing to a move he made all night was that he kissed me on the cheek when he arrived.
So I'm a little confused. I mean, on the one hand, it's really nice getting to know a guy and not having that pressure. Just flirting and talking. We hung out for almost 6 hours and talked the whole time about everything from religion to punctuality to infusing meat in alcohol. And he definitely flirts. It seems to me like he likes me. But then why hasn't he made a move? And while (if he does like me) I really appreciate the fact that he hasn't made a move and is taking things slow, I have to say it's a throwing me off and I'm totally confused. I mean, I guess part of it is that I had been worried going into it that he's 35 and so he's going to want to move faster (I'm 22 for those of you new to my blog) and blah blah blah. Plus,
one of the last guys that I went out with a couple times was ALL OVER me the whole time. So this is especially strange after that.
My theory is that he likes me but he's not sure he wants to really pursue things with me because of the age difference. But I mean, he had to know there was a decent age difference when we met at the bar (which is the other reason I'm inclined to think he likes me because men don't often meet girls at bars and go "huh, I'd really like to be friends with this girl. Let me get her number.") So I dunno. And thus I leave it to the Datingish/Xanga jury: does he like me?
Comments (5)
Hmmmm well, he's older, wiser, probably more well versed in the art of flirtation and of course probably more patient with women. Firstly, he does like you yes, otherwise, there will not be a second date and nor will there be a candlelit dinner nor a get-to-know-you-while-assessing-you section. But, there is always that 3 date rule before the sex (I think there is such a rule but maybe not I dunno really lol). He is a gentleman so, enjoy yourself with him, if he isn't interested he wouldn't have really bothered. The best part is he has R-E-S-P-E-C-T for you : )
Oh don't worry so much! Steve waited...a whole month. That's right. From our first dinner, to the movies to the museums, he waited a whole month before even putting an arm around me. An arm! lol. Then he waited an additional week and a half before getting the guts to kiss me on the forehead. Finally I just kissed him to save myself the misery of waiting. lol. So really, different guys move at different paces. Also he might be waiting to see if you'll make a move. =)Â
of course he likes you! he asked you out right? and if he calls you after this, well, he definitely likes you.
i think he's just trying to be a gentleman. don't stress and just enjoy the ride. if a boy calls, he likes you. if he doesn't call, he's not into you. end of story.
It really depends on the person. From what you've described, it sounds like he likes you and that the way he has been going is his normal 'dating' mode. It might be as principessadolce@xanga says and it might be some other reason.
As someone of the opposite sex and older, I would like to think it is he is a gentleman (similar to the thought very interestingly put by rosiecotton19@xanga) and not just being one for the sake of the date. I also think he does like you to ask you out on a second date.
The touches were probably accidents. I know I'm such a spaz that it happens to me.
Like itiscomplicated's comment, some (like me) have a tendency to not get physical (even in the terms of her comment) too early. (Yes, it also sometimes takes the woman making the first move for us to break -- or move up our comfort time table to touch someone.)
I know. Odd but true.
I say enjoy it. It's a date, not a contract for anything. He likes you and you are enjoying the pace.
No need to worry or over think it.
Just to bring a different perspective to this crowd, from your description of the date it sounds like the date overall seemed a little odd to you. Which could mean that maybe the two of you are in different stages of your lives. Which makes sense because there's a 13 year age difference!
All joking aside, I don't think the age difference is at the crux of the situation. I think it's an issue of differing levels of maturity. Not that you're immature. I'm 22 also, and I have no desire to be any more mature than my 22 years warrants me. But if something felt a little off on the second date, I'd imagine there's a whole Pandora's box of goodies waiting to rear their ugly heads in succeeding dates. I'm not trying to be a downer, here; rather, I advise that you be realistic.
Taking myself for example, I usually clock in somewhere between the 35 year old and the frat boy. Except less frat boy-ish than the frat boy and way cooler (and probably funnier) than the old dude. *ahem* I mean 35 year old man. Except I'm tall, and also a really good kisser. And I'm noticing that I have a really high opinion of myself...