Sunday, 14 September 2008

• Chicks before Dicks

  Last night I was at a party and there was this guy there. He was very cute and we were flirting. We had a class together in college but never really knew each other that well though we had always been a little flirty (but he had a serious girlfriend at the time so that was all it was, flirting).
  
  Anyway, so he no longer has said serious girlfriend and he's totally hitting on me and so I'm like "ok cool." But then a friend of mine shows up and he drunkenly confesses to me that they've been hooking up recently. He tries to make himself look like the good guy who's being honest with me. And he "really likes" me and "really wants to kiss" me and, you know, they're only hooking up. They're not in a relationship. Not that I was going to hook up with him when he was hooking up with her. But I felt less awkward about the whole situation.
  
  But when he goes to the bathroom and I go talk to my friend, she says they're "basically together."
  
  So I'm kinda pissed (and mildly disappointed I have to say because he was really cute). And even though I told him that I wasn't going to do anything with him since he was "basically with" my friend, he spent the rest of the night following me around, being all over me, and trying to get me to hook up with him. He kept trying to kiss me and saying we should "just get out of here" (and actually he blatantly asked to come home with me... what's with guys inviting themselves over to my place?). I was like "no!" I also told him that he needed to have a talk with my friend because clearly they both had very different ideas of what was going on between them. Finally I just left and luckily my friends were all looking out for me, because he actually tried to follow me out but they kinda blocked him (and they also helped block him at multiple points in the night when he was all over me).
  
  Now I'm left with the dilemma though of what to tell my friend. Because by the way I asked her what was going on between her and him, she could tell something was going on. And later in the night, after he kept trying to seduce me, I told that we needed to talk. That was probably kind of stupid of me. I should've thought it out more before I said anything. But I do feel like I should say something. I would want to know if I were her. I'm just worried that she will take her anger out on me rather than him (you know, that whole shoot the messenger thing). And what do I say? "um, you're involved with a jerk. You might want to get uninvolved with him because he's trying to seduce other girls at parties that you're at. Or at least have a talk about what exactly is going on between the two of you since you both seem to have very different definitions of that at the moment."??? It's a very delicate subject...
  

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