I'm a flirt. A terrible terrible flirt. I know this. But I can't help it. I flirt with EVERYONE. Even my girlfriends. And it's not that I mean to. Or that I'm actually flirting by definition (because flirting is meant to signal that you are attracted to someone, and I'm not attracted to the people I flirt with). But the way I interact with people is much like most normal people flirt. You know, sarcastic banter, joking around, lovingly poking fun at people, being touchy (I'm a very affectionate friend!). This has recently become a problem for me because I think I'm leading a couple of guys on who I've started to become friends with, but I think they think it's more than that because I'm so freaking flirty and they don't know me well enough to know that is just how I am. Particularly one of them who is foreign and where he comes from I don't think girls are quite so forward as they are here and so I think the whole girls flirting with him thing is a little bit new for him.
As much as I don't want to lead people on, I also don't want to change who I am. I am naturally a bubbly, sarcastic, touchy-feely person. I love hugs and witty banter. I guess I just need to learn to tone it down a bit. But it's hard to change the way you naturally act.
Are you a flirt? Is it ok to flirt with people you're not actually interested in?
Comments (3)
Well if the person has never had a relationship and is easily persuaded...that's harsh to meaningless flirt with him/her. BUT! if the person knows that you are just a flirt...then it's okay.
Wow, it's as if I wrote this myself! I have a similar "problem" from a guy's perspective. I love flirting with the opposite sex, and sometimes I think I do it just to lighten the mood or keep myself entertained. But the sad truth is, in my experience as well as yours I'm sure, sometimes it just isn't appropriate around certain people. I have led girls on before, and then I have to deal with the aftermath them liking me and I don't feel anything for them. Never a fun situation. But then again, sometimes both people have no problem with it. It seems you've found another very gray area in the relationships color continuum.