My birthday was the other day. Most of my friends wished me a happy birthday, at least via facebook. Even most of my ex-boyfriends wished me happy birthday. One of my friends even called me from Egypt! But one of the people who forgot is the guy I've been seeing (the 35-year old). That always puts a bit of a damper on the day. I was especially mad because his birthday is three days after mine so you would think he would remember. It wasn't until today when I texted him "happy Thanksgiving" that he texted me back "sorry I missed your birthday. Hope you had a good one and a good thanksgiving." I'm not even sure he would've contacted me to say happy thanksgiving if I hadn't contacted him first...
Some people will say that forgetting someone's birthday shouldn't be that big of a deal. It's just remembering a date. But that's just it - it's not exactly that hard if you really care about the person (especially if it's right by your own birthday). And as I've always said, the little things are what matters. It really seems to me like if someone can't do something as simple as remembering my birthday, they probably must not really care about me. And I deserve someone who cares enough about me to remember my birthday.
Do you think it's a big deal if your SO forgets your birthday? Why or why not?
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Ouch. I'm sorry to hear that. It'd irk me as well. While birthdays are probably less important than anniversaries, forgetting it is not ok. I feel like if he's gonna take the effort to date me & show that he cares about me, he should also be able to remember important events in my life 'cause that's one way of showing he cares. I do understand how you feel.. Although my boyfriend has never forgotten my birthday, he has forgotten the date. We had been together for almost 6 months while vacationing with friends when one of our friends decided to quiz my boyfriend on how well he knew me. [Keep in mind, the boyfriend & I had been friends for a year & a half before dating.] So the friend asked my boyfriend when my birthday was & he guessed every date possible in the month except mine.. well, he also guessed September 31st. -___-" Needless to say, I got mad at him for not remembering.. He made it up somehow & has made a point to never forget again. :P
Anyway, happy belated birthday! :) I hope you had a great birthday despite his forgetting...
And I think it is offensive when your significant other forgets your birthday. Of all the people in your life, he is on the list of individuals who should have it burned into memory. I had an exboyfriend who didn't even call me on my birthday; I ended up calling him and basically said "happy birthday" to myself. Then again, he was cheating on me so it's not like he had any incentive to remember such "minor" details.
You're right: it's the little things that matter. And if someone expects you to give them attention, you have a right to expect the same in return.